Happy Mother’s Day! Whether you biologically birthed them, adopted them, surrogated them, fostered them, step-mothered them, psuedo mothered them – whether they are people, or ideas, or projects, we are all mothers. We are all mothers to our mother the earth. That’s part of the Big Change. But on a more worldly plane…
I have an essay called “Not’s Landing” in a new book: “No Kidding: Women Writers on Bypassing Motherhood”. Here it is on Amazon.
It’s a cool collection edited by Henriette Mantel, with a forward by Jennifer Coolidge and includes essays by my friends and awesome writers Margaret Cho and Merrill Markoe – among others. Enjoy mine here and check out the book for the others!
“Lately, because I gave up the booze, I’m really getting how much energy it takes to not do something. And how much of not doing things I’ve done and sometimes not done. Not eating. Not smoking. Not sexing. Not becoming my mother. Not not becoming my mother. Not obsessing. Not being afraid. Not writing. Not having a real job. Not giving in to time. And, most pertinently here, not having kids.
Not having kids is saying one big no. No to the same thing over and over and over. So that you can say yes to everything else. Having kids is saying one big yes so that you can say a million little nos in the hopes that you might end up with a child who is alive and has a good conscience and boundaries and plan for living without being too afraid.
Jonathan Katz, better known to you as Dr. Katz, called me the other day, out of the blue. We’ve never met but he just wanted to say how much he enjoyed the David Feldman podcast on which I was a guest. Johnathan and I had a long lovely talk about life and comedy and UnCabaret’s new Amazon episodes and his new project Explosion Bus. it is one of the joys of telecommunications to sometimes, out of the blue, hear from someone you admire and do not know.
He asked me really good questions. David is smart and a very precise joke writer, who’s written for Roseanne, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, Bill Maher etc. He was genuinely interested in how and why and who and interested in making sense of it for himself, which always makes for a great interview. That’s why I listened to Whitley Strieber for so many years. He was on a personal quest to understand. As I am. As if you have gotten the far I assume you are!
This is David’s description of the show: Why are gay and female comics more fun to watch? Is there room for confessional comedy in mainstream clubs? Could it possibly be true that the Los Angeles comedy scene is America’s most fertile arena? The history of Alternative Comedy.
Here it is on iTunes (Confessional Comedy) Enjoy!Learn More